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With June being Pride month, lets take a look at some stars who have come out this year.

small flagLee Pace
Lee had a rough year leading up to his coming out. After initially being outed by a reporter and "at a loss for the right words" when asked about his sexuality, Lee Pace came out in a statement via Twitter. In addition, Lee has been doing interviews in which he revealed he is dating “a fashion executive.” I wont post the persons name here but a google search will give you that information if you are really interested. His good friend Matt Bomer also gave him some advise on coming out. “My counsel to him was, basically, when you decide to make it public, it can feel like you’re operating in a void,” Mr. Bomer said. “Nothing about you has changed, but maybe certain people’s opinions about you have changed. The beautiful thing about that is out of that void come all the people who truly want to engage with you and want to embrace your most authentic self. To me that’s always been far more rewarding than whatever mass appeal you have if you chose not to.”

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Dominic Cooper

Guess the film: Highest Grossing Horror Remakes

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Ever wonder which horror remakes were the most successful? Probably not. But with horror remake "The Grudge" hitting 15 years old, IMDB decided to list the top highest grossing horror remakes of all time. In an attempt to make the post more interesting and bring some lightness to a dark news week, I thought we could make this a guessing game.

I'll give you a random clue or hint for the horror films title or story and you can click the cut to find out if you are right.

6. This film featured a lead who was the sexiest man alive in 2010.

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5. This film is proof that Sissy Spacek loves a good paycheck.

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4. The state bird for the setting of this film is the Mockingbird.

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3. "Some houses are born bad" was the tagline for this film.

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2. Taylor Swift has been accused of having one.

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1. Also known as "The Precious".

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Diana Guerrero

Chemical Reaction

This is an interesting article I came across on Chemistry. Its a good read and pretty short.

By Amy Spencer
New York City-based writer Amy Spencer has contributed to Glamour, Maxim, New York and Real Simple.

Sweaty palms? Sort of. A pounding heart? A bit. Even so, you're still not completely sure there are sparks between you. Understandable: While it'd be nice to think that the earth moves and the angels sing when you've found The One, sometimes the signals that you two are truly meant for each other are much more subtle than that. Here are seven dead giveaways that singles often miss --

Subtle sign 1: You turn into a total klutz
So far, you've dropped your fork and knocked over your water glass...and that's before the entrées have arrived. While embarrassing, these gaffes are actually a good sign. "When you have serious chemistry, your body produces elevated levels of the neurotransmitter norepinephrine," says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., research professor of anthropology at Rutgers University. This, in turn, can make you jittery, uncoordinated, and a little accident-prone. And if you're embarrassed by your klutziness, that's a good sign, too! Because if you don't care what your date thinks of you, you probably don't think much of your date.

Subtle sign 2: You notice a tiny dent in your date's pinkie nail
Or that your date's hair flips up on the left but under on the right. You've never noticed something like that about a person before, so why now? Because when there's true chemistry, the body's levels of the chemical dopamine rise and lead to "imprinting," a theory of attachment discovered by German ethologist and Nobel Prize winner Niko Tinbergen. This imprinting makes you focus on this one person more clearly and notice the tiniest, most insignificant details about a person -- and their possessions. Says Dr. Fisher, "His car in the parking lot looks different. His backpack looks different. His coat on the coat rack stands out. Everything about him is special, novel, unique."

Subtle sign 3: You agree to split the spinach dip appetizer -- and you don't even like spinach dip!
True chemistry makes us more mellow than usual -- so don't be surprised if you find yourself being agreeable with your date in ways you might not with anyone else: You don't mind walking 10 blocks with your date from your parking spot. You're suddenly up for seeing a Corky Romano movie. And even though you're not a fan of Indian food, what the heck, you'll give it another shot. "When you're falling in love, you more easily surrender your boundaries because of a strong desire to merge with that person," explains Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Keeping the Love You Find.

Subtle sign 4: The room you're in seems brighter than usual
Did someone nudge up the dimmer switch? Perhaps. But it could also mean you're smitten, thanks to a physiological reaction discovered by University of Chicago biopsychologist Eckhard Hess, a pioneer in the area of "pupillometrics." In short, Hess found that when people look at something or someone that causes positive feelings or sparks interest, their pupils dilate in an attempt to take in more of it, also letting in more light as well.

Subtle sign 5: You're more fidgety during the date
If you find yourself tapping your leg or otherwise fidgeting during the date, rest assured: Whether you fully know it or not, you like this person. "These are 'displacement gestures' -- what you do when you're trying to decide what to do with yourself," explains Dr. Fisher. "If someone is smiling at you and you can't decide if you should smile back or look away, you play with your hair. Or you run your tongue along your teeth." This happens because your brain is over-stimulated, leading you to vent the extra energy with a little self-grooming. Some experts even argue that stroking your own arm or leg indicates a subconscious desire to reach out and touch the person you're with.

Subtle sign 6: You keep forgetting there's food on the table
When you're out with someone who doesn't float your boat, boy, do those garlic mashed potatoes taste good. But if you're feeling a chemical attraction to someone, the food being served is the last thing on your mind -- and not just because you're nervous. Blame this on elevated levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which fuels feelings of desire. Higher levels of dopamine, according to Dr. Fisher, "give you a feeling of lightness, increased energy and a feeling of minor ecstasy. And you're definitely not hungry!" So if your date seems disappointed that you only ate four bites of your steak, you can clear it up later by explaining what a five-star sign it really is.

Subtle sign 7: You feel more "familiar" with your date than "lusty"
Sure, most people think it's a good sign when they want to jump over the table and rip their date's clothes off. But let's be honest -- there are plenty of acquaintances you've wanted to do that to, and there was no deeper, underlying chemistry there. A stronger sign is that instead of feeling lust for your date, you're overwhelmed by a feeling of familiarity -- a sense of, "Gosh, I feel like I've known you before." The chemistry at work, says Dr. Hendrix, "is due to the emotional center in your brain's limbic system recognizing qualities in the person that resemble qualities about the caretakers we had during childhood." For example, a man might recognize a feeling of being at ease and nurtured the way his mother made him feel. A woman might feel comfortable with the dry humor of her date, similar to the way her father interacted with her. "This intense familiarity triggers the release of dopamine, which can lead to that 'Wow' feeling," explains Dr. Hendrix. Oh, and by this point, it's also definitely OK to want to jump over the table and rip your date's clothes off!
Diana Guerrero

The Fragile

Life changes so should feelings. It’s natural for a viewpoint to shift after some years. You can find someone so interesting and lovable but realize that those feelings were misguided. It’s an interesting development to realize that what you knew of love was nothing if not immature. To embrace love for the first time is life changing and so important. I think the transition from love to friendship is as easy as realizing that you have found something good. It takes embracing something magic to realize you never had it before. The true test to any relationship is how to survive it and if so, love it. Love the broken and fragile. The fragile is the sweetest part.
Broken bones heal but broken hearts always stay wounded. The fortunate souls who realize they are better off without the constant misery. I find it interesting to see the object of desire become human. We often see those we care for as more than human, they become the unattainable, the forbidden fruit. When those people fall, it’s hard not to smile at your loss. You might not have won the battle but the war seems to be in your own hands. It’s a very destructive viewpoint but an honest view that most people will never admit to feeling. It’s natural to take some sort of pleasure in seeing those that have hurt you and broken you, come undone. We should rejoice because we all feel pain and that’s what makes us so human. There is not pain without pleasure and in the pain, we find some semblance of who we are.
Diana Guerrero

Emo Gas Tank

Everyone has an emotional gas tank inside them. Inside most of us, our tanks are filled with anger, sadness, fear, or negative emotions. These emotions can build up over time. It's easy for these negative views to interfere with the good vibes in our tanks.

Anger is so easy to spot yet so unpredictable. Anger is like a bad pipe. It can start out like a small leak but build up and accumulate until it explodes all over the floor. It's usually exploding on someone who wasn't aware there was a problem or knew there was some piping issues and ignored it. Either way, you are soaked in your own water.

Patterns begin when we are toddlers. We learn how to eat, to read, and how to pick up bad habits. Once burned, it's easy to become those people that you think are so sad and so bitter. You see them all the time, on the bus or on the freeways of America. Anger is a pattern that just grows over time and can become so vicious that you can't even realize the source of your anger, an emotional time bomb.

There is a solution to this problem. It's so simple yet so hard to remember in the bad times, forgiveness. We should not regret what we said, but regret what we didn't say when we had the chance. Mistakes are a part of life and you can't cut everyone out who makes mistakes.

I think forgiveness is a learned technique. I can't recall how many times I have said that I would never forgive someone for breaking my heart or not saying the words I needed to hear. It's a learned process, forgiving, and its quite hard to do.

I like to think that I have to take my emotional gas tank and just dump all the junk out, let it go. Try and fill it with the good stuff that I need like patience and joy. As I get older, it's becoming more important. There is just not enough time in this life to hold on to anger and sadness.

There is no easy process to get rid of anger. Everything goes away. It's a constant in life. It's impossible to trust the material stuff as it all fades away and we are left with the memories. I guess you have to unstuck yourself from those feelings, those memories. It's impossible to expect people to be perfect as it's just unattainable.

When I get angry, I get sore. I literally feel it in my body. It's not good for your head or your body. I have read studies that indicate that anger can have really strong effects on your body and I think it's true. When I was reading all these stories on Proposition 8 and I could see all the anger and hatred, it made me angry. I was playing right into the gimmick. They had me where they wanted, I was pissed. I was in the Castro on Friday night when the Yes on 8 people flanked the streets and tried to convince people of their way and I just felt angry. I thought the No people took it too far as they are entitled to free speech but I couldn't help but be angry with the lack of consideration of love they were showing for their fellow man. It was disturbing and just made me mad.

I had to let it go. I had to remind myself that I cannot change the world around me until I change my viewpoint on things. I have to address these issues internally and learn to address these things with people in a way where it's not coming from anger, but from education.

It's hard to let it go. I have had several friends today telling me stories of betrayal and anger and I too feel it today. I'm just learning to deal with things differently to get different results. I don't have to approve of the actions that cause my anger but my forgiveness works for me, it's my strength. It's the one thing that allows me to be free. It makes me feel like I am in control of how I feel, not others. I am only hurting myself by being angry and that's just, well, fucked up.

This probably seems like a really long entry about forgiveness but I don't think it's really that long considering how much time I have to spend forgiving. I have to forgive coworkers, friends, family, myself and sometimes God for not understanding why things happen. At the end of the day, I am making a deal with myself. 1) Not to take things too personally. 2) Quit blaming others and dwelling on it. I have decided that these are two actions that I can control and so I won't play into it. I know what's right and wrong and I know what I feel. Fuck anyone who tries to tell me how I feel. That's my job. I'm just going to enjoy life and not worry about the small stuff, join me or get off my road.